WEEK ONE: RECOGNIZING BULLYING & HOW TO REFUSE TO BE BULLIEDMONDAY: WHAT IS BULLYING?
School-wide announcement: At Littlerock Elementary we all share a responsibility in working together to ensure that all students feel welcome and safe. Starting this week, we begin a unit on bullying. We’ll be focusing on how to recognize bullying, how to refuse to be bullied, how to report bullying, as well as other related information. Our focus for the first week is how to recognize bullying and how to refuse to be bullied.
Bullying happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose. Bullying is deliberate, repeated over time and a situation in which one person has more power than the other. Bullying can be done with words, with technology such as cell phones or computers and it can also be physical.
Talk in your class about situations and decide if it’s bullying.
TUESDAY: WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BULLYING AND CONFLICT?
School-wide announcement: Conflict is a disagreement that happens when people want different things. The people involved in a conflict have equal power to solve the problem. They are not purposely trying to hurt each other. Bullying is different. Bullying is unfair and one-sided. It happens when someone keeps picking on someone on purpose. The goal of bullying is to make the victim feel scared or bad about themselves and that’s not okay. All kids have conflicts – disagreements that end up in arguing or fighting, that’s different from bullying.
To help recognize bullying, ask yourself these questions:
· Does it continue to happen even though you’ve told the person to stop?
· Is the person making you feel scared or bad about yourself?
· Does the person have more power than you do?
Remember, having a conflict or problem with someone isn’t necessarily bullying. Bullying is on purpose,repeated over time and a situation in which one person has more power than the other. We all mess up now and then. If someone makes you feel bad in some way, tell them and ask them to stop. If they stop, it’s not bullying. If they keep doing it or keep finding different ways to make you feel bad, it is BULLYING!”
Talk in your classes about situations and decide if they are examples of conflict or bullying.
WEDNESDAY: DIFFERENT KINDS OF BULLYING
School-wide announcement: Bullying can come in a lot of different forms. Some bullying is face to face bullying which means that both the bully and the victim are present. The bullying behaviors are pretty obvious. The person being bullied knows that it is happening and knows who the bully is. A different kind of bullying, called behind the back bullying, is harder to recognize. The person being bullied might not even know that it’s happening or who is doing the bullying. Some examples of behind the back bullying include gossip, rumors, and mean jokes. Bullying can happen at school or away from school. Some people use the computer or cell phones or other technology to bully.
Talk in your class about different situations that are behind the back bullying.THURSDAY: WHAT TO DO IF YOU'RE BEING BULLIEDWe’ve talked about how to recognize bullying and how bullying is different from conflict. Now we need to learn what to do if you are bullied good first step is to tell the person to stop, using a calm body and voice But before you say anything, you will need to decide if it’s safe because sometimes it’s not a good idea to confront a bully on your own. The following are examples of when it would NOT be a good idea to confront a bully on your own.
· The person bullying you is older or bigger than you are.
· More than one person is ganging up on you.
· You have no friends who can help you.
· No adult is nearby.
· You feel trapped.
In these cases you need to get out of the situation as quickly as possible and report to an adult.
If you decide it’s safe, you can refuse to be bullied by taking these steps:
· Look straight at the bully with your head held high.
· Speak respectfully and use a calm, clear voice. Say, “That’s bullying and you need to stop.”
· Walk away calmly.
To refuse bullying safely, it’s important that you don’t get so mad that you end up losing your temper and getting in a fight. As you refuse bullying, be sure that you:· Remind yourself to stay cool and calm by taking a deep breath and saying, “Cool and
calm. Cool and calm” over and over in your head.
· Imagine yourself speaking in a strong, clear, respectful voice.
Keep in mind that bullies are less likely to target people who are in a group or those who walk tall with their heads held high. Even if you don’t always feel self-confident, faking it is okay!
If it’s happening at recess and you’re just not sure if it’s bullying or a conflict, you can always ask a recess aide to help you decide.
Your job today is to talk about examples of when it would and would not be safe to confront a bully. Then, practice how to refuse bullying with a partner in situations where it feels safe to do so.WEEK TWO: REPORTING BULLYING AND THE CONSEQUENCES OF BULLYINGMONDAY: REPORTING BULLYING
School-wide announcement: We want you to know how to refuse to be bullied. Last week we talked about how to stand up to bullies and how to decide if it’s safe to stand up to a bully. If you decide that you’re being bullied and you’ve made an effort to refuse to be bullied and it continues, we need you to report the bullying to an adult. The adult will help you.
When you report bullying, you need to tell the adult the four W’s:
· Who was involved.
· What happened.
· When did the bullying occur.
· Where did the bullying occur.
We also need to know how long the bullying has been going on.
If you report bullying and it keeps happening, report again – and again until it stops.
Make up a situation in class and practice how to report, being sure to include the four W’s – who, what, when and where as well as how long.
TUESDAY: WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN REPORTING AND TATTLING?
School-wide announcement: Lots of students hesitate reporting bullying because they think it’s tattling. Reporting bullying is not tattling and here’s how you can tell the difference:
· Tattling is when a student tries to get someone in trouble.
· Reporting is when a student tries to keep someone from getting hurt.
· Remember, bullying can hurt a person, a person’s feelings, or their things.
Talk in your class about situations and decide if going to an adult is reporting or just tattling.
WEDNESDAY: WHEN SHOULD I IMMEDIATELY REPORT BULLYING?
School-wide announcement When should you report bullying? You can report bullying anytime. However, there are some times when you need to report bullying to an adult immediately. Report bullying immediately when:
· Someone isn’t safe.
· Someone is touching or showing private body parts.
· You’ve tried to refuse it, but the bullying continues.
Remember, bullying can’t happen if we refuse to let it. If you feel bullied, decide how to handle it. Stand up to the bully if it is safe. Ignore the bully or walk away if it doesn’t feel safe to stand up to him or her. Go to an adult and report the bullying.
THURSDAY: CONSEQUENCES OF BULLYING AT LITTLEROCK ELEMENTARY
School-wide announcement: So, what happens when bullying is reported? It is against the law for schools to let students be bullied. All the adults at our school have a responsibility to confront bullying. We will be sure it stops. Here’s how:
· First a student will be warned by a staff member that he or
she is bullying and told to stop.
· If the bullying continues, the bully is written up and sent to the principal. The principal will decide on an appropriate consequence and contact the student’s parents.
· If a student is written up a second time, the consequences will be even more serious. The student is eligible for suspension, which means that they’re not allowed to come to school for one or more days. The principal, counselor, and student’s parent will develop a plan for the student to help them make better choices.
BULLY PREVENTION PROGRAM
WEEK THREE: THE POWER OF BYSTANDERS
MONDAY: WHAT IS A BYSTANDER?
School-wide announcement: The last two weeks we’ve talked a lot about bullying – how to recognize it, what to do if you are a victim of bullying, and what happens to people who bully. This week we want to talk about an important group of people called bystanders. A bystander is someone who watches something happen without being part of it. People who watch a bullying situation are bystanders. There is a saying that goes, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.” Bystanders give power to the bully by giving a bullying situation their attention. Sometimes they give the bully power by laughing at the victim which only makes the situation worse. Being a bystander of a bullying situation is not okay.
Talk in your class about being a bystander and how that makes the problem worse.
TUESDAY: HOW DO BYSTANDERS MAKE A BULLYING SITUATION BETTER OR WORSE?
School-wide announcement: Yesterday we learned about bystanders – people who watch a bullying situation. Often there are several bystanders watching a bullying situation. These bystanders also have power. How they use that power can either help stop bullying or make it worse. We want you to help.
Bystanders who watch bullying give their power away to the person who bullies. They hurt the person who is being bullied. They’re not helping, and that’s how they become part of the bullying problem.
An important thing to remember is that bystanders can use their power to help people that are being bullied. Actions that help reduce or stop bullying are part of the solution. And that’s what all of us at Littlerock need to do – we all need to be part of the solution.
Coming tomorrow: How bystanders can be part of the solution.
WEDNESDAY: HOW CAN BYSTANDERS HELP?School-wide announcement: If you see bullying happening, you can help out by doing the same things you might do if you were being bullied yourself. First, recognize that someone is being bullied. Second, help the victim refuse to be bullied. And third, report the bullying. We want you to be able to help someone being bullied. But remember that everyone needs to stay safe. If it looks like someone might get hurt, get an adult immediately. Here are some ideas to help someone being bullied:
· Invite the person being bullied to hang out with you and your friends. Bullies don’t have much power over a group.
· If someone is being bullied on the bus, you might ask him or her to sit with you so they don’t have to sit near the bully.
· If the bully is your friend, you could try to get that person to come do something else with you instead of bullying.
· Encourage the victim and all the other bystanders to leave the area and start a game.
But remember…DO NOT gather a group of people to “go after” the bully or to “get the bully.” If you do this, you have just become part of the problem.
THURSDAY: MORE IDEAS ON HOW YOU CAN HELP
School-wide announcement: We’ve talked a lot this week about how all of us can be part of the solution to bullying. Bystanders play an important role and can help if they see someone being bullied. If you recognize bullying happening, be sure to help the victim refuse the bullying by:
· Labeling it – say, “That’s bullying. You need to stop.”
· Help the victim by letting him or her join you and your friends.
· Help the victim report the bullying.
· Be sure that everybody is safe.
· Don’t become a bully yourself by going after the bully.
Spend time in your classes talking about all the different ways you can help if you see someone being bullied.
BULLY PREVENTION PROGRAM
WEEK FOUR: WRAPPING IT UP
MONDAY: RUMORS AND GOSSIP
School-wide Announcement: We’ve talked about different kinds of bullying, including behind the back bullying. One kind of behind the back bullying we need to talk about is spreading rumors and gossip. A person who spreads a rumor or gossips is a bully. People who listen to rumors or gossip are the bystanders. Bystanders can become part of the solution by refusing to listen to gossip and by helping the victim.
If a bystander hears gossip or rumors and repeats it, they have just become part of the problem. If you hear rumors or gossip:
· Don’t participate in the talk, either discussing or listening.
· Leave the groups that’s doing the gossiping
· Don’t repeat any rumors or gossip you hear.
Tomorrow we’ll learn some ways you can be part of the solution by blocking rumors.
TUESDAY: HOW TO SQUASH RUMORS
School-wide announcement: Yesterday we talked about bullying with rumors and gossip. If you hear gossip or rumors, you can help stop the rumor in its tracks and not let it go further.
You might say something like
· “That sounds like a rumor to me”
· “You don’t have proof of that.”
· “You don’t know if that’s true.”
· “That sounds like something you should talk about with the person involved.”
Be sure you figure out some way to stay away from rumors and gossip. In class, practice some ways to squash rumors.WEDNESDAY: BULLYING BEHAVIORS WON’T WORK AT LITTLEROCK
School-wide announcement: Bullying is a learned behavior. Kids who bully have more than likely been bullied themselves. Sometimes they think that if they bully someone first, they won’t be the target of bullying. We need to remember that bullies will be less likely to bully if they have people to play with and feel involved and included with what’s going on at school.
We need to encourage kids to understand that they can have friends and have fun and their bullying behaviors just won’t work. Bullies, like the rest of us, need friends. What do you do when your friend does something you don’t like? You say, “You need to stop or I won’t play with you.”
If you are playing with someone who tries to bully you, just say, “Stop it – that’s bullying. I won’t play with you if you do that.” If the bullying behavior stops you can keep playing. If it doesn’t, it’s probably a good idea to go somewhere else to play.”
THURSDAY: WE ALL DESERVE A SECOND CHANCE
School-wide announcement: “I won’t be your friend!” These are words that we’ve all heard before. They can actually be a way to bully people. Remember yesterday, we told you if someone you are playing with is bullying you, tell them to stop and don’t play with them if they keep bullying.
Does that mean you should never play with that person again? Of course not. It just means that you won’t play with them if they continue to bully you. As soon as they stop, let them play again. This is how people will learn that they can have friends if they are not bullies.
People who never get to play are likely to start bullying to get attention and to show their anger about not getting to play.
Be sure you let students join your games and activities with you whenever they can play about bullying. Everyone wants to feel welcome and included. We all need to do our part to make Littlerock a safe and welcoming place.
FRIDAY: LITTLEROCK ELEMENTARY BULLY PLEDGE
The last few weeks we’ve spent time learning about bullying – how to recognize it, how to refuse it, how to report it, how we can help as bystanders, and what the consequences of bullying at Littlerock Elementary are.
Remember that each and every student at our school is an important part of not allowing bullying. The adults at our school can help you learn about bullying and what to do if it happens to you or someone else, but it’s up to the students in our school to all agree that they WILL NOT tolerate being bullied.
Only you can speak up when someone is bullying you. Only you can help if you see someone being bullied. Only you can report bullying and help victims report. Only you and your friends can send a message to other students that bullying will not be ignored. Don’t keep any bullying secrets out of fear. Be kind to everyone and refuse to be around anyone who is bullying.
Please be an important part of standing up to bullying at Littlerock. Remember what we’ve talked about the last several weeks. Remember that words can and do and choose yours carefully. Also, please sign the class bully pledge in your classroom today.
Thank you for all you do to make Littlerock a wonderful school!